Personally, I often feel that "Christian Culture" tends to be more geared toward women than men.
For example, in the traditional worship setting, there is ONE leader and everyone else just passively sits and listens. I'm not saying this is wrong, but just that it does not generally fit well with the male psyche. It may be an overgeneralization, but it could be said that men are meant to be assertive leaders rather than passive followers, and women are comfortable being followers of men who are in leadership positions.
This is related to some of the discussion last week at church. In coming from a Jewish perspective, the public religious setting is very much male dominated, and study is a very important part of Sabbath worship. However, the study atmosphere is NOT passive at all. Though there is a leader, there is MUCH participation, which includes differing opinions, views, interpretations of scripture, discussion, debate... It is not a setting where one person talks and everyone just listens and agress .....or sleeps! :-) Everyone prepares and everyone participates! But it is the MEN who are involved rather than the women, who are involved in more of a support role than active involvement. (The Jewish woman's role is supreme in the home, expecially as it relates to raising up godly children and making an enviroment where the Sabbath and other holidays can be observed properly.)
In thinking back to some of the discussion last Sabbath, we heard women say things similar to "but I am too tired to do more study in the afternoon..."
My response: Yes! This is an area for men to enter into- our bodies are different! As long as our bodies are still healthy, we have natural hormones that give us more energy to be active! As long as the study is stimulating, active, requiring an alert mind, give and take discussion, we can handle it- and the Jewish men spend ALL day on Sabbath doing this!!
However, if the study is one-way, requiring no active participation, just "listen-and-agree-with-what-I-teach" attitude, the majority of men will not be interested in attending, and while the women will naturally be attracted to following the "male leadership," they will become "sleepy."
hello everyone and happy sabbath!
sorry for late reply.
when i was single, i never really felt tired during sabbath at the church, but now i often felt tired too! so it's not just the women:P
well, perhaps in my case it's because i have small kids (babies) and a wife who has just become christian at late 20s. i have to take care of them all, not to mention my roles at the sabbath school class, sermon time and church board meeting.. i do think it's one of the times in one's life where one has to just hang on, but i really missed the sabbaths when i spent time just singing and sharing with brothers and sisters, or go out to the park to enjoy nature. to be honest i must say that i hate the church board meetings on sabbath, and i think there are just too many rigidly planned events and too few spontaneous activities that flow naturally.
btw, i think you are right steve when you said that women enjoy the leadership of men. the problem is there are too few men in the fukuoka church.
btw (again), is it ok to continue this thread in english? 今後とも英語でいいですか?
ところで、教会の中に男性のグループができることは、いいことだと思います。 数えてみると、割とたくさんの男性がいる
ことに気がつきました。 みな忙しいですが、その気になれば
それなりのことができそうです。
自分のクリスチャンライフを振り返ると、≪学びー祈りー活動ー学びー祈りー活動ー≫のサイクルのうち<活動>が欠けているみたいに感じます。
男性グループだからこそできるご奉仕が出来たらいいですね。
これはぜひやってみたいと思います。
Ken K.
Hi Ken!
Sorry I didn't see your comments earlier!!
「例えば、 『なぜ、日本の教会には女性が多いの?』
これを考える、その理由を探る。 そして提案する、又は行動する。 」
I think one thing is that it has to do with "men's cultural thinking" and the "churches' social structure."
I will try to explain: Men have a God-given "DNA" "male-mindset" where they feel most comfortable in a leadership role. Leadership involves taking initiative, being creative, taking risks, providing protection, showing originality, training others for leadership... in one word, being "aggressive."
Take a look at the "church culture":
1. There is ONE male leader.
2. In a worship service, there is only ONE person active at a time. The majority of the people are to participate ONLY passively- originality, initiative, creativity are discouraged or not allowed.
3. Everyone is required to just sit quietly and listen and submit to authority/leadership.
in one word, the church culture is "PASSIVE."
And then we wonder why men don't bother to participate??
Of course not! It is a "feminine-mindset" environment!
So what is the solution? One solution, is to provide a time and place for Christian men to be MEN! With NO women present (at the beginning, anyway- until the men learn to be men) otherwise the women will take over and the men will stop going! I think it must be men-initiated, or the men will see it as another way that the woman is trying to control the man! Which is more effective, the wife saying to the husband, "Why don't you go to this meeting..." or a friend saying, "Why not join us guys on Saturday evening...."
For example, ministry time: homeless, evangelism, sports ministry, business ministry...
Steve