My friend's wife gave him an ultimatum the other day: they will have a kid within this year, or she will divorce him.
He wants her to work; she really wants to be a Japanese housewife. Her company, a British firm, is not making things easier.
When she signed her employee contract with the company, she noted that it did not include anything about childcare leave. Upon inquiring as to why, the company HR person said rather bluntly that the company will not preserve her employment if she goes on maternity leave, and that the company will not support her pregnancy in any way.
Surely this is illegal. But it made me wonder: why do Japanese employees put up with this sort of abuse? Something about this reeks of "class action" potential.
Is the wife's ultimatum that she wants to start "trying" to have a kid this year, or she wants to conceive this year? I hope she knows conception isn't a guaranteed thing.
But other than that, by law companies are required to keep the job around for pregnant women. They are required to offer you maternity leave of 6 weeks before your due date, and up to 8 weeks after delivery.
http://www.roudou.net/i/lawki_yasumi_san.htm
As to why they put up with it, who knows. Maybe they don't want to stand out, or are afraid of the social ramnifications of sueing an employer, or are possibly worried about the financial situation until the case can be settled, and find it's easier just to get a new job?
Regardless of the social pressures and corporate liability &tc, it appears your friend and his wife didn't discuss this enough before they got married which is really when they shoulda decided this sort of thing.
Actually they did discuss the pregnancy thing, and he's fine with having a kid. He's not fine with having a company (foreign one, at that) push her around. Legally, sure, they are required to keep her on; right now he's weighing the cost of hiring an attorney to fight this sort of discrimination and illegality against her preference just to give up this present job and seek a new one, which she feels would be cheaper and allow her to save face. I think that sort of contemplation is truly bizarre: why capitulate to such an egregious act by that company? Why is it that in a nation of laws that one must weigh such a decision? (And, further, to be living within a society that is touting its population decline yet doing little to bring such illegal policies to a close? I hope they choose Canadian citizenship for their biracial child.)
As for "be pregnancy" vs. "start trying" ... I believe the latter, fortunately for them ;-)
You mean for themselves, as in raising the child in Canada? Because I hope you're aware, the child will have both nationalities until the age of 22. I know because in two years I either have to give up my American citizenship or give up my Japanese citizenship.