All of you are taking this way out of context. The person who posted this is also guilty of this. So let make this very simple for you. Some or most Japanese guys have two major problems.
1. Too Shy
2. No confidence
If you fix these then you can get any girl in the world you want! if you need more info on this and steps etc. Just mail me your questions. No one can promise that you will get every girl you want but what i can promise is that you will be much much closer to getting the girl you want even is shes not Japanese!
1. Too Shy
2. No confidence
If you fix these then you can get any girl in the world you want! if you need more info on this and steps etc. Just mail me your questions. No one can promise that you will get every girl you want but what i can promise is that you will be much much closer to getting the girl you want even is shes not Japanese!
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I'm not a Japanese guy nor a scholar but:
1. The two problems you mentioned, aren't they one in the same?
2. Japanese women (a majority of them, not all) have the same problem that the men do.
My solution, hang with more black people. Our aggressiveness will be contagious like the plague...
1. The two problems you mentioned, aren't they one in the same?
2. Japanese women (a majority of them, not all) have the same problem that the men do.
My solution, hang with more black people. Our aggressiveness will be contagious like the plague...
I have no idea what you are talking about but ...
fixing your 2 (one really) points fall in the category of "Easier said than done".
Bah, not everyone can be a player.
oh, and on a sidenote. shyness and no confidence, it's usually a cliche, get to drink with many guys and check it out .... after a few beers, the good ol' Dutch Courage is in them too.
fixing your 2 (one really) points fall in the category of "Easier said than done".
Bah, not everyone can be a player.
oh, and on a sidenote. shyness and no confidence, it's usually a cliche, get to drink with many guys and check it out .... after a few beers, the good ol' Dutch Courage is in them too.
The reason we doubt the man who made the topic
1)Using many unclear pronouns
2)We don't use "fix" in the case, I think.
>1. Too Shy
2. No confidence
If you fix these....
He should have used thus word "defeat". In my case, I can represent, like this,
If you could defeat those feelings(conditions, mentality)....
because we are not a machine, like terminators.
Presented by a Japanese Man
1)Using many unclear pronouns
2)We don't use "fix" in the case, I think.
>1. Too Shy
2. No confidence
If you fix these....
He should have used thus word "defeat". In my case, I can represent, like this,
If you could defeat those feelings(conditions, mentality)....
because we are not a machine, like terminators.
Presented by a Japanese Man
Saying `fix` a problem is fine...lol. That`s what we do, we `fix` problems. We can also conquer fears, which is probably the best phrase to use in this situation if we`re getting nit-picky about it, lol. Or first establish that being shy is a problem...blah, blah, blah...
Using `fix a problem` is alright in this situation...lol, and this is coming from someone who makes a living as an English teacher.
Using `fix a problem` is alright in this situation...lol, and this is coming from someone who makes a living as an English teacher.
>#10
→fix the bad relationship○
→fix too shy mentality as Japanese×
Thank you for coming my page. I also went to your page, and checked your profile. You are a native English man and an English teacher.
You said "Saying 'fix' a problem is fine. I agree with that part as I wrote above.
So, you want to say "WE, JAPANESE ARE TOO SHY. THAT IS A PROBLEM", don't you?
I think we use "fix" word that some wrong or bad things will be better, means we can use synonyms, like repair, recover, or mend. Basically those words are used to change better than present situation.
Anyway, you seem to be a native speaker who are living in Japan. So...I might bother you because I blame part of your opinion. If some English speakers blame me that my Japanese is strange, I'm so fXXXed up. Probably I made you feel so. But please think about your opinion, again.
You said we can use "fix" in thus situations, like WE, JAPANESE ARE TOO SHY, AND SOME JAPANESE DON'T HAVE ENOUGH CONFIDENCE TO USE ENGLISH. THOSE ARE PROBLEM FOR....(you? us? or everybody?)
So, I said we should use "defeat" in the situation. We, Japanese make some troubles for English native speakers because we are too shy??
→fix the bad relationship○
→fix too shy mentality as Japanese×
Thank you for coming my page. I also went to your page, and checked your profile. You are a native English man and an English teacher.
You said "Saying 'fix' a problem is fine. I agree with that part as I wrote above.
So, you want to say "WE, JAPANESE ARE TOO SHY. THAT IS A PROBLEM", don't you?
I think we use "fix" word that some wrong or bad things will be better, means we can use synonyms, like repair, recover, or mend. Basically those words are used to change better than present situation.
Anyway, you seem to be a native speaker who are living in Japan. So...I might bother you because I blame part of your opinion. If some English speakers blame me that my Japanese is strange, I'm so fXXXed up. Probably I made you feel so. But please think about your opinion, again.
You said we can use "fix" in thus situations, like WE, JAPANESE ARE TOO SHY, AND SOME JAPANESE DON'T HAVE ENOUGH CONFIDENCE TO USE ENGLISH. THOSE ARE PROBLEM FOR....(you? us? or everybody?)
So, I said we should use "defeat" in the situation. We, Japanese make some troubles for English native speakers because we are too shy??
Uhm, this looks like another comedy topic. Here are my two points
1. People around the world have some weak points (being shy is better then being boring or being notorious stupid)
2. Who need girls around the world? Asian girls are fantastic
If you agree or not agree with those two points, please spare me of any questions or mails. I promise I can't answer them
1. People around the world have some weak points (being shy is better then being boring or being notorious stupid)
2. Who need girls around the world? Asian girls are fantastic
If you agree or not agree with those two points, please spare me of any questions or mails. I promise I can't answer them
This is an interesting topic. Personally I think that a lack of confidence is just one reason for being shy and I don't think of them as being two separate "problems". Also, it's only a problem if the person themselves thinks so. If you like someone, but are to shy too talk to them, and you lose the opportunity to talk to talk to them and regret it afterwards, your shyness might be a problem for you. The same holds true if the roles are reversed. It shouldn't be a problem for any third person.
As for addressing this "problem", if a person considers it that they have such a problem and want to fix it then they've obviously realized they need to change which is already half the battle won. All they need to do is gain the confidence to begin doing things without worrying about standing out, beeing seen by other people or worrying about what other people think. If they can do that, then they've changed themselves and will have no more "problem". Ironically though, you get confidence from knowing that the outcome of a particular course of action will be what you want. Such knowledge usually comes from prior experience, which is difficult to get if your shy and not willing to take that first step. If you do want to try and take that first step, but are worried about being embarrassed, do what you can to limit any potential damage to yourself and your social standing such as going somewhere completely different and out of your way. You can then act how you want without worrying about people you know finding out. I wonder if that's one of the reasons why a lot of male foreigners (also some females?) become players when they come to Japan?
As for addressing this "problem", if a person considers it that they have such a problem and want to fix it then they've obviously realized they need to change which is already half the battle won. All they need to do is gain the confidence to begin doing things without worrying about standing out, beeing seen by other people or worrying about what other people think. If they can do that, then they've changed themselves and will have no more "problem". Ironically though, you get confidence from knowing that the outcome of a particular course of action will be what you want. Such knowledge usually comes from prior experience, which is difficult to get if your shy and not willing to take that first step. If you do want to try and take that first step, but are worried about being embarrassed, do what you can to limit any potential damage to yourself and your social standing such as going somewhere completely different and out of your way. You can then act how you want without worrying about people you know finding out. I wonder if that's one of the reasons why a lot of male foreigners (also some females?) become players when they come to Japan?
lol This is hilariously funny! If you need to know, actually I am an expert in getting girls. lol If you can't wait to see what kind of techniques I have, introduce me to your sister and you will see! Now that's funny! lol Oh and by the way after looking at your pics I wouldn't even waste my time! ohhhh and thats funny too! Now anyway, like i was saying before............................ In the matter of being shy, many Japanese guys are definitely shy when it comes to getting a girl outside their race. So many of them fantasize about having a different flavor. They are mostly worried about rejection and communications skills.
ヒマツブシニナル you sound very angry that i'm saying "Japanese are shy". Hey its not a problem for me. Honestly I couldn't care less about Japanese guys shyness, but I constantly hear it all the time! I ask "well why don't you talk to her?" and the answer....."oh I'm shy". So if shyness stops you from talking to a girl, then it is a problem which needs to be fixed. Now whether you choose to fix or not, that's your business. There are two kinds of people in this world. Those who make things happen and those who sit around and wait for things to happen. I think you are smart enough to figure it yourself!
ヒマツブシニナル you sound very angry that i'm saying "Japanese are shy". Hey its not a problem for me. Honestly I couldn't care less about Japanese guys shyness, but I constantly hear it all the time! I ask "well why don't you talk to her?" and the answer....."oh I'm shy". So if shyness stops you from talking to a girl, then it is a problem which needs to be fixed. Now whether you choose to fix or not, that's your business. There are two kinds of people in this world. Those who make things happen and those who sit around and wait for things to happen. I think you are smart enough to figure it yourself!
This guy is a douche...haha!! Japanese citizens, please don't think he is an accurate representation of westerners in Japan...
ヒマツブシニナルさん、that's not my opinion...I was just commenting on the fact that you were correcting someone's English when I didnt feel it needed to be corrected.
It's his opinion that it's a problem, not mine. 
ヒマツブシニナルさん、that's not my opinion...I was just commenting on the fact that you were correcting someone's English when I didnt feel it needed to be corrected.
It's his opinion that it's a problem, not mine.
Thank you to those that agreed with my post. It's nice to know that you're not alone :-P. I think that there are a couple of reasons why this thread is drawing so many harsh coments. The idea that being shy is a problem is one. Some girls like shy guys and saying that being shy is a problem is indirectly saying that all people who are more shy than the author of the post have a mental problem which would understandably offend a lot of people. I think another reason is the apparant arrogance with which the author offers to give advice on picking up girls. I don't think the author intended to be arrogant, but that is the impression I got from his post. The author is probably very successful at picking up girls. If so, he has my respect for succeeding in one of the most fought in arenas of life. I wonder though, who is the more successful? The guy who picks up lots of girls, or the guy who picks up one girl and stays with her for the rest of his life?
i don't think that shy guys are just a Japanese issue (if you would call it that), although it might be exacerbated by culture. There are increasing numbers of men who identify themselves as shy in the US, which has been contributed due to the rise in electronic forms of communication. it is speculated that due to the rise in electronic forms of meeting rather than personal contact, many social skills needed to do so are lacking or not as strong. I can tell you that I am a very shy guy yet I live in the united States and am not in any way of Japanese or Asian ancestry.
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