I am an American girl and am 18 years old. I am half black and half white and I have been learning Japanese for 6 years now, but it wasnt until about a year ago until I really started being more attracted to Japanese guys. I havent met hardly any Japanese guys at all, but the ones I have met were very kind. I want to have a Japanese boyfriend, but I don't think any Japanese guy would like me because of my race. I would like to get peoples opinion on this subject. Maybe a Japanese person's opinion would help more.
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DANCER STAR <<don't be silly....
I speak and write Japanese..and have lived in japan and NYC off and on for the past ten years.and also have a BA in International Studies
...So i am sure I can tell you allot more about japanese cutlure then the aveage blackman can...
Why don't we just ask the QUESTION like this>>> IF YOU ARE A JAPANESE GUY how many NON-JAPANESE friends do you have?NOW lets break THAT number down to NON-JAPANESE girls friends??? lets start with that.... then maybe you can get a better answer. I HAVE HAD SO MANY ASIAN GIRL FRIENDS..AND HAVE MET MOST OF THEIR FAMILIES..ALL HAVE TREATED ME PERSONALLY WITH RESPECT..
BUT,, LETS NOT COVER OUR EYES>>>Didn't anyone watch the world cup??
DIDn't you see Henrey and his anti-racism CM and fight racism movement...that you can join on nike.com...
RACISM is every where in this world..you have those who see it..those who deny it and those who live it....
And as I am writing this I am starting to think you might have to open up the mind alittle more.... and it does both capital and lower case..i just like CAPITAL...
one
noface nyc
I speak and write Japanese..and have lived in japan and NYC off and on for the past ten years.and also have a BA in International Studies
...So i am sure I can tell you allot more about japanese cutlure then the aveage blackman can...
Why don't we just ask the QUESTION like this>>> IF YOU ARE A JAPANESE GUY how many NON-JAPANESE friends do you have?NOW lets break THAT number down to NON-JAPANESE girls friends??? lets start with that.... then maybe you can get a better answer. I HAVE HAD SO MANY ASIAN GIRL FRIENDS..AND HAVE MET MOST OF THEIR FAMILIES..ALL HAVE TREATED ME PERSONALLY WITH RESPECT..
BUT,, LETS NOT COVER OUR EYES>>>Didn't anyone watch the world cup??
DIDn't you see Henrey and his anti-racism CM and fight racism movement...that you can join on nike.com...
RACISM is every where in this world..you have those who see it..those who deny it and those who live it....
And as I am writing this I am starting to think you might have to open up the mind alittle more.... and it does both capital and lower case..i just like CAPITAL...
one
noface nyc
This idea that people should not recognize differences in race is not really practical. Our differences are a beautiful thing. Exotic to some, intriguing to others.. its when we start saying which is better that the problems start. We all have preferences that can vary from time to time. There is nothing wrong with admitting that we like this look or that look. But when we say these things in public we just need to be prepared for different opinions.
No face.... I find it difficult to believe that you could be in a country for that long and never find a good friend. Might be time to start looking within yourself for the cause of this problem.
No face.... I find it difficult to believe that you could be in a country for that long and never find a good friend. Might be time to start looking within yourself for the cause of this problem.
TOKYOOG>> PLEASE READ>>>I have many good friends From Japan..most female..actully..but my brother my best friend is Japanese..he lives in brooklyn nyc now...for very long time....check our music
I DON'T CARE WHAT RACE YOU ARE.....I HAVE LOVE FOR ALL....RACISM WE SHOULD ALL FIGHT.
i think this is part of the problem..the lack of basic understanding what racism really is......
tokyoog..do you really understand my comments???about
japanese male having non-japanese girlfriend??
one
I DON'T CARE WHAT RACE YOU ARE.....I HAVE LOVE FOR ALL....RACISM WE SHOULD ALL FIGHT.
i think this is part of the problem..the lack of basic understanding what racism really is......
tokyoog..do you really understand my comments???about
japanese male having non-japanese girlfriend??
one
well despite claims to the contrary Australai can be very racist - as anyone who remembers the rise of Pauline Hanson can attest to. Mind you school kids anyware will just pick on any difference they see. When I first moved to Australia ( age 7 ) I was teased for having an "English accent" - or "talking like a POM" :). I wasn't even from England but thats beside the point. Of course now I'm well aussie and can take the piss out of poms and saffas with the best of them :)
Maverick> Sorry you had a bad experience - I hope you've also had positive experiences as well.
Maverick> Sorry you had a bad experience - I hope you've also had positive experiences as well.
Thank u for asking me, Telesa san,
teruさん→ Korean boys are the most generous asian guys? Can you tell me more details about that.....?
I have many chinese friends in Japan and they say Japanese is colder than Chinese. And Chinese girls say that Korean guys are the best lovers.. I dont know about Korean guys but I can tell that Chinese guys are more generous than Japnese guys because I had two Japanese and two Chinese boyfriends.
teruさん→ Korean boys are the most generous asian guys? Can you tell me more details about that.....?
I have many chinese friends in Japan and they say Japanese is colder than Chinese. And Chinese girls say that Korean guys are the best lovers.. I dont know about Korean guys but I can tell that Chinese guys are more generous than Japnese guys because I had two Japanese and two Chinese boyfriends.
i wouldnt say race doesnt matter. some do care, others not. you just need to seek out the ones who dont. take me as an example, im a japanese guy and im open for anyone regardless of race, color, well maybe age is something that i care and defenitely the sex i care the most lol im actually glad to hear there are some non-japanese girls that do get attracted to japanese guys i went to a college in california (just got back in japan two months ago) and i saw lots of japanese girls being asked on a date by american or mexican dudes but i never saw (or at least it never happened to me) the other way around, i mean, japanese guys being asked on a date by american or mexican girls not that i was waiting for girls to ask me out but i felt even so pathetic being an asian guy for some reasons one of my caucasian friends once told me that those that i consider them friends may turn out to be some assholes that just want me to hook them up with some japanese girl becuase they know i know many japanese girls i thoguht that's pretty messed up but i guess that was true
well my point is not the race that matters when you love someone but i know for sure there are some japanese guys that are cool as hell so come out to japan and see for yourself maybe you will find me as the one lol
well my point is not the race that matters when you love someone but i know for sure there are some japanese guys that are cool as hell so come out to japan and see for yourself maybe you will find me as the one lol
64: Makot,
If you use the word Racist with such a broad meaning, then, for instance, I am Sexist, because I only prefer women.
Racist is a stronger, uglier word used in circumstance when it goes beyond "taste" or "preference". I have a preference for certain types of women. My tastes run towards women with a nice face and a great personality.
Using the term racist implies that somebody feels very strongly against somebody of a particular color. People that think all blacks are thieves, or all white guys in tokyo are bastard playboys, etc.
Race does play an important factor for most people in who they choose for a partner, but it's not always the main factor. And in many cases, those people have never been exposed to somebody outside of their own race for long enough to even think about such things.
If you use the word Racist with such a broad meaning, then, for instance, I am Sexist, because I only prefer women.
Racist is a stronger, uglier word used in circumstance when it goes beyond "taste" or "preference". I have a preference for certain types of women. My tastes run towards women with a nice face and a great personality.
Using the term racist implies that somebody feels very strongly against somebody of a particular color. People that think all blacks are thieves, or all white guys in tokyo are bastard playboys, etc.
Race does play an important factor for most people in who they choose for a partner, but it's not always the main factor. And in many cases, those people have never been exposed to somebody outside of their own race for long enough to even think about such things.
I really am not sure about what I am going to say, but this is how I see it^^ Please don't flame if I got something wrong!
My boyfriend is Japanese and I am completel white. I guess the difference is the same, it's not because you are half black that you are "more" different. It's all about taste.
I have met 2 black women here in Japan, married to japanese men. One has been for 20 years! She told me that the most difficult thing was not being accepted by her husband, who loves her, but by the society. After 20 years, she still had problems and suffered from passive racism (I don't want to offend anyone, I just can't find the word to say it). Maybe it is the problem of every foreigner in Japan, it's just that black people are different by their looks more than white people, whose skin resembles more japanese skin. I am not saying that every japanese person is like that, of course!
By the way; I see everyday many black people here in Nagoya, more than Tokyo and they look really well integrated (sometimes). Why is there such a difference?
My boyfriend is Japanese and I am completel white. I guess the difference is the same, it's not because you are half black that you are "more" different. It's all about taste.
I have met 2 black women here in Japan, married to japanese men. One has been for 20 years! She told me that the most difficult thing was not being accepted by her husband, who loves her, but by the society. After 20 years, she still had problems and suffered from passive racism (I don't want to offend anyone, I just can't find the word to say it). Maybe it is the problem of every foreigner in Japan, it's just that black people are different by their looks more than white people, whose skin resembles more japanese skin. I am not saying that every japanese person is like that, of course!
By the way; I see everyday many black people here in Nagoya, more than Tokyo and they look really well integrated (sometimes). Why is there such a difference?
Litte cynical there DanceStar
I dated a Korean girl a few years ago and granted it didn't work out in my case. However, that doesn't mean that if two people are devoted enough that they can't make it work.
I suppose the trick is learning not to really care what "society" is going to think about it.
I dated a Korean girl a few years ago and granted it didn't work out in my case. However, that doesn't mean that if two people are devoted enough that they can't make it work.
I suppose the trick is learning not to really care what "society" is going to think about it.
I've also noticed that many Japanese girls here have Canadian boyfriends, but only once I met a Japanese boy who had a Canadian girlfriend.
I also noticed that more of my guy friends like asian girls than my female friends like asian boys.
Is this common in other places?
People here (this topic) have a lot of good thoughts about the subject. I agree that although some people may have problems with race, maybe more than some even, there will be others who don't care. It's hard to find someone compatible to date in any race. But...I think if you are patient and become friends with Japanese boys, then eventually you will meet someone you really like.
Maybe if there are more Japanese guys reading this, they can tell you their opinions.
I think it's okay if you want to date someone casually because of their race or status or whatever other socially not-so acceptable reason you want.
Casually dating is okay, right?
Also, I dated an asian guy. He told me that he thought Canadians didn't think having sex was a serious thing. It was like he was saying all Canadian girls are slutty. Maybe some are, but not all of them.
I also noticed that more of my guy friends like asian girls than my female friends like asian boys.
Is this common in other places?
People here (this topic) have a lot of good thoughts about the subject. I agree that although some people may have problems with race, maybe more than some even, there will be others who don't care. It's hard to find someone compatible to date in any race. But...I think if you are patient and become friends with Japanese boys, then eventually you will meet someone you really like.
Maybe if there are more Japanese guys reading this, they can tell you their opinions.
I think it's okay if you want to date someone casually because of their race or status or whatever other socially not-so acceptable reason you want.
Casually dating is okay, right?
Also, I dated an asian guy. He told me that he thought Canadians didn't think having sex was a serious thing. It was like he was saying all Canadian girls are slutty. Maybe some are, but not all of them.
Aries + Taurus is like child + adult...
Aries + Aries is like two kids playing....
→totally agree!!!!!!!!!
I do not know much of blood type , but i know a lot in horoscopic signs.....
But sometimes, the sun horoscopic sign is not details enough for one's personality , check your/his moon and ascending sign also is better.....
By the way, my ex boyfriend is : French + Gemini + BType
→a typical uwakimono......
Aries + Aries is like two kids playing....
→totally agree!!!!!!!!!
I do not know much of blood type , but i know a lot in horoscopic signs.....
But sometimes, the sun horoscopic sign is not details enough for one's personality , check your/his moon and ascending sign also is better.....
By the way, my ex boyfriend is : French + Gemini + BType
→a typical uwakimono......
>I've also noticed that many Japanese girls here have Canadian boyfriends, but only once I met a Japanese boy who had a Canadian girlfriend.
>I also noticed that more of my guy friends like asian girls than my female friends like asian boys.
>Is this common in other places?
LOL, try digging around the topics that have been posted in this forum... the white male/ japanese female dating issue has been debated ad nauseam already.
>I also noticed that more of my guy friends like asian girls than my female friends like asian boys.
>Is this common in other places?
LOL, try digging around the topics that have been posted in this forum... the white male/ japanese female dating issue has been debated ad nauseam already.
>I've also noticed that many Japanese girls here have Canadian boyfriends, but only once I met a Japanese boy who had a Canadian girlfriend.
Actually, japanese girls have American boyfreinds
more than Canadian boyfriends.
>I also noticed that more of my guy friends like asian girls than my female friends like asian boys.
This is somehow true. So, the asian guys are very proud if they can get a sexy caucasian girlfriends. But it's difficult for an average asian guy.
>Is this common in other places?
I think i am a right person to answer you this question as i live in Hong Kong and know a bit of the japanese culture.
From my observation, I think Japanese girls prefer American/Canadian guys and HK girls prefer European guys.
I think maybe .... due to cultural difference.....
In Hong kong, generally, only english-speaking(I do not mean native-speaker) girl choose gaijin(because our language is too difficult to learn). But, in japan is different. Even girls speak poor english, they still get a gaijin bf......
In fact, I am very jealous of my male friends who can learn japanese so fast........
Actually, japanese girls have American boyfreinds
more than Canadian boyfriends.
>I also noticed that more of my guy friends like asian girls than my female friends like asian boys.
This is somehow true. So, the asian guys are very proud if they can get a sexy caucasian girlfriends. But it's difficult for an average asian guy.
>Is this common in other places?
I think i am a right person to answer you this question as i live in Hong Kong and know a bit of the japanese culture.
From my observation, I think Japanese girls prefer American/Canadian guys and HK girls prefer European guys.
I think maybe .... due to cultural difference.....
In Hong kong, generally, only english-speaking(I do not mean native-speaker) girl choose gaijin(because our language is too difficult to learn). But, in japan is different. Even girls speak poor english, they still get a gaijin bf......
In fact, I am very jealous of my male friends who can learn japanese so fast........
Anyway Japanese guys have the largest universe of Japanese girls to choose from and often have less interests in trying to get a high maintenance Foreign GF. They have it made in their country and they know it. Foreign guys mostly end up with all the damaged goods and left overs. And the fact that girls out number the guys over here also helps.
Personally I do not think it is a question about race.It is a question of cultural differences.Cultural differences are a major obstacle for interracial relations.
Teresa,if you think only about race,then you are stuck on the physical/outside qualities - most important is the mind and your way of thinking.If you are in Japan you should learn the way of thinking of the Japanese.It is not easy and a major challenge to undertake.
Teresa,if you think only about race,then you are stuck on the physical/outside qualities - most important is the mind and your way of thinking.If you are in Japan you should learn the way of thinking of the Japanese.It is not easy and a major challenge to undertake.
ゆすけ/Re'san→
Yes, I thought I did say something very wrong about that, so i decided to delete it.
I am sorry.....I am used to say whatever I want.....
But, undeniably, what I said is somehow true........
And to be honest, I am used to grown up in a very competitive environment, it's not just me, ppl are categorizing everyone in the similar way...
And obviously, we girls are used to being judged by appreance only by guys.......It's an undeniable truth...
Yes, I thought I did say something very wrong about that, so i decided to delete it.
I am sorry.....I am used to say whatever I want.....
But, undeniably, what I said is somehow true........
And to be honest, I am used to grown up in a very competitive environment, it's not just me, ppl are categorizing everyone in the similar way...
And obviously, we girls are used to being judged by appreance only by guys.......It's an undeniable truth...
Badly hurt.....
Yes, I have that experience too.......by a HK Chinese guy.....He loved me too, but it's just my love for him is far far far more than his love for me.....
I think the miserable memories is far more than the happy one....
And i got a bit hurt with great disappointment when I was seeing some british guys in the past......
But on the other side, it's good to have this kind of experiences as it can make you less vulnerable afterwards.....
Yes, I have that experience too.......by a HK Chinese guy.....He loved me too, but it's just my love for him is far far far more than his love for me.....
I think the miserable memories is far more than the happy one....
And i got a bit hurt with great disappointment when I was seeing some british guys in the past......
But on the other side, it's good to have this kind of experiences as it can make you less vulnerable afterwards.....
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