We have had a few topics talking about Gaijin/Japanese couples, and I think mostly we agree what is imoprtant is their personality..
So.......
What is it you look for in a partner? Is it simply enough that they are cute/handsome? Or do you want someone who's Kind/generous, etc? Can you elaborate a bit, otherwise it will just be many replys which are "kind, nice, friendly". Give some examples if possible!
#36 "Everything else in the relationship is going to change." Sometimes the less you talk the better off you are in the long term. Keep things a little mysterious for as long as possible, and gives you both lots to talk about after you are too old to phuck : )
It interests me to see what people like in another person.
Even those who just say something sexual.. maybe it is bravado and bullshit, but maybe it's honest! If so, then good for them, the internet is somewhere they can be honest, they need to hide behind a false self!
girl with skinny ass and a million doller smile. he he
and she better laugh a lot so that makes me happy. dont like the grumpy biatch. and believes in herself, knows what she is doing and has responsibility of it.
dont know i like whoever loves me a lot. i hate feeling alone all by myself. and hate to get ditched
the greatest thing is to meet someone, rather than 'i want to be happy with who' or 'i want who to make me happy', who makes you think 'i dont care having any problems that make me unhappy if im with that person'. it sounds quite negative but i think its the tightest relationship you ever get.
does that sound ok? if it doesnt, too bad haha but wow this is a great words! you dont get that? thats my bad. if you read it in japanese, you think so too lol
We normally say, "I'm going to be happy with my lover." or "My lover is the key to my happiness." But rather, could we think this way, "I will nevert regret even if i end up in misery, if i can be with this person" ?
If we can find such a person, don't you think that's the best? This could seem to be a negative perspective, but i believe this is the strongest love relationship possible.
>Even those who just say something sexual.. maybe it is bravado and bullshit, but maybe it's honest! If so, then good for them, the internet is somewhere they can be honest, they need to hide behind a false self!
I see. in that case, it would have been more entertaining to ask "What is your fantasy?" (*≧m≦*)プッ
Fenomas: interesting, I kind of know about it, but still impressive how it works. Also strange to test these things your self :3
よんよん:
IMO describing your favorite girl IS describing a fantasy :3 As Fenomas pointed out, most people don't think to much about such preference they made in advance when picking out a partner (and change their preferences later accordingly to their latest 'victory', or change it to the treats of movie characters or other fiction figures (my description is actually a bit of all :3). So even if you are 'moe' about something, chances are you'd just be as happy with a different partner :3 But since that is boring, indeed we should just write here what kind of partner we can fantasize of :3
Personal hygiene is also very important. You would be surprised how many guys do not understand this. I dated one guy who rarely ever brushed his teeth. Maybe every few days. I couldn't even kiss him because it was so gross.
Basic cleanliness is also important. I don't want to go into his place and see old dishes and food (with spores), or a toilet/tub that has never been washed. It shows that he is independent and is mature enough to live without having his mother take care of him. I don't want to become some guy's "mother."
Someone who is straightforward but without being rude. Kind. Interesting and kind of strange. Has a grasp on simple logic.
For looks, it isn't very important.
To decide on a sort of ideal type, my type would be...taller than me, but not tall (I am 5'2, 158cm). It is more comfortable to talk to someone who you can see. Usually I date guys who are taller than 6 feet, it just depends on the situation. Dark hair. I have a thing for guys with dark-rimmed glasses. Physics-major type sense of humor. Someone who is stoked on science is also my general type.
I think it is best to try dating different types to learn what you can get along with best. My important things are based on the stuff my ex boyfriends did that I really didn't like.
I like a girl who has depth to her personality, is easy to look at(at least by my standards), and a girl that has her own natural sweetness. I also like a girl that respects privacy and makes good use of her time while she is away from her partner. Im not into introverted people or people that like to waste their time by inconveniencing others. to me that just kills the experience.
Physically im into women who have nice faces and smile a lot.I feel that all women depending on there confidence level can make themselves look beautiful no mater what size, shape, or color they are. Im strongly attracted to small women although i have dated women larger than my size in the past. Hygiene is a must.
I also like surprises. people that surprise me always leave me interested.
I agree, in the end I think it is the same as asking about what your fantasies are. I know that a person's taste changes over time too so I had to wonder what is the point of this discussion.
I just wanted to clarify the intention because it seemed a bit inappropriate if it's just to peep on people's hidden personal tastes under anonymity. :P
>I just wanted to clarify the intention because it seemed a bit inappropriate if it's just to peep on people's hidden personal tastes under anonymity. :P
I don't think any point needs to be reached. This type of topic is an open one. There is no right or wrong answer... But i find such topics interesting... and it's a chance for many to practice their English.
よんさん:
I don't think we need a point to just talk together, just a topic ;) And we get to know each other a little with more personal talks, it's a community after all ^^
And for me it's not so much anonymous, it's not like we change our accounts every time. Heck if I lived close to people I'd invite you all for a drink (isn't a bar a nice place for such talk ^^).
more on topic: For some reason, most Osakan girls I met tended to be more outspoken and straightforward (or in other peoples words: "weird"). I liked it ^^;; Since it's only based on the few I met, I'm not entirely sure of course :3 What do others think about this?
Because there are no trees in Osaka. People can't look at trees and be quiet. That's way they talk a lot. Of course, young girls talk most, with tree or without.
アキラ@今:
Haha, I like that explanation :3 This is the first good thing I saw from missing trees :P
And even nick names are not anonymous. Do you know the name of the person you are talking to in a crowded bar? out on the street you are just as anonymous. Yes, everything is a bit anonymous, but not that much (and yes my profile shows me a real name and a real picture, since I'm not here to hide my identity).
I like really cute to beautiful girls with outgoing personalities.
I guess the ideal match for a serious relationship would be someone like Nakama Yukie. She has a cute personality to her that's bright and cheerful.
Someone who's good looking, smart, and wants to help others is my ideal type. As long as I can get along with her and not fight all the time I think I'd be satisfied.
I like good looking guys with voice of bariton but it's not enough to be with them.
Mens that I like are intelligent, kind, generous, take care of me, think of me (not everytime but often enough), contact me frequently, write me, sweet, respect me, rich, good life and work situation etc.............
Actually my type is the man I'm being in love with. It doesn't matter if he isn't good looking for everyone, I just need to be in love with him to find him the most perfect man of the world for me.
>Mens that I like are intelligent, kind, generous, take care of me, think of me (not everytime but often enough), contact me frequently, write me, sweet, respect me, rich, good life and work situation etc.............
Understandable. But you are so high up there, or am I too down there? Good luck. : )
>アキラ
I have already found it because it's exactly like my current boyfriend
It's not hard to find this kind of guy, you just need to be in love with a guy ( or a girl) who loves you. When you love someone you inevitably are kind, generous, etc... I recognise that intelligence and good life and working situation is difficult to get but other criterions are, in my opinion, normal things when there is love!
let's see...
i like the guy who has really mood.and also Who really care about me.like a....the guy says.I was born to lov u...who telling me sweet words. but not social butterfly.