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in japan, we always ask you...

which is more important for your life love or work?

maybe, lots of people would say the balance is important in our life. of course i think so too.
however in my case,
i would say "work is more important in my life."
because i am apt to be the typical type of "love is blindness" :)

people who is engaging with their work seem to be very cool.
people who is absorbed in "love" seem to be easy-going,but not to be.....

i sometimes felt such things looking at lots people...
maybe..prejudges..

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[1] mixiユーザー 03月01日 00:46

Love is part of your life. Love can lead to a great relationship. You can find somebody to love, get married and have a great family. I'd call that a great life.

Remember, you work in order to live your life. Not the other way around.

[2] mixiユーザー 03月01日 00:49

It depends. There were periods in my life where I put work in the first place when I was single, then love in the second.

Now I would say it's a balance between the two. I love my girlfriend, it's not an easy love, but it is matured love . And it's that love that also gives an importance to work also and what I want to do with my life.

[3] mixiユーザー 03月01日 00:49

>390
I understand what you mean. But I would say love.
Love is actually vitamin for work. All work and no love makes Jack a boring adult.

[6] mixiユーザー 03月01日 01:11

Love (family of course do come first)..!!!

I would change my job for my family,
But never my family for my job.

I need a job for my FAMILY,
I don't have a family for my JOB.

I would say "no" to my boss if teh things are not ok with my family,
But I wouldn't say "no" to my family if the things are not ok with my job.

まこつ　あら ,
I don't think its a stupid question.Esipecially in japan!!!many japanese men think job comes first.And the eployeers don't care too much about their worker's family.

For example a boss takes his men staff to a hostes bar after work..He doesn't care if they are married or not.I think it is wrong to take a married person to a hostes bar and make him drunk and send him home at a very late time ..Many japanese men don't even have enough time too see their kids.
Some of them's new born baby cry a lot when the father holds them!!!Because he sees his baby once a week!!!(in same house)...

So my friends, FAMILY IS LOVE,
LOVE COMES FIRST...

[7] mixiユーザー 03月01日 01:34

Familly and love come first! I prefere the french way of thinking : 35 HOURS A WEEK OF WORK ONLY!

[8] mixiユーザー 03月01日 01:35

I guess it all comes down to needs in my book. I'm currently stuck in this situation as we speak. Going with the people I love vs. achieving my dream. However mine is broken down like this.
Family
Work
Love

Family IS important because they are the ones who are going to support you no matter what you do.

Work is something that will sustain your life style because in the world we live in, everything needs $$...

Love is important to me as well because honestly, there is no better feeling in the world than to be with the person you care for the most.

My dilemma, I've been working on something for the past 4 years, something that could impact many people. However in order make this happen, I would have to travel to 3 different places, Detroit, New York and Washington DC. It's always been my dream to help many people and even solve their problems. Now in order for this to happen I need the $$ to travel and these people are only available to speak to for a limited time so I would have to travel for more than a month. If I do this, I wouldn't be able to see the person I care for the most. I really do love this girl. However this dream of mine can be made as long as I have full concentration. Then I guess you can say this, my work IS my dream... Now here is the real question.

Love vs. A dream that can be reached

[9] mixiユーザー 03月01日 02:20

I guess that depends on what kind of "love" you are talking about... Is this the kind of "love" for a girl you see walking down the street or for some office lady? Or for the "love" of your family if you have one?

As I am young. I'd prefer studying and working. I don't find love as important right now. Since securing my future is important to me.

But once I have a Family.The love of my family would take president over work. Family is way more important then work. Neglecting your Family is what creates problems with you family.

As efendi said, You work for your family.

If i had a job and no love.. That's one hell of a lonely, and depressing life. I wouldn't feel there to be any sense in working.

[10] mixiユーザー 03月01日 02:59

> 8: アンソニーさん

What's the dilemma? Doesn't your girlfriend understand and share a little in your dream? Is it only a relatively brief time that you would be away in those three places? Is it really an either / or situation?

Our dream is part of who we are, I can't imagine a love relationship where that was not part of that love.

> 9: ウィールさん

You make some very good points.

It's a good point that at certain times in our life, our priorities are different. And, especially, it may mean while you are young you are not necessarily looking to get involved in a long-lasting relationship right now.

Personally, I take a much wider view of love. I think it is much more important than work or anything else after you have food and shelter (not money).

For me, love is a part of everyday life, whether you have a romantic relationship with someone or not. Love is not what you get, but what you give in life.

I think love is an attitude, a frame of mind, a disposition of the spirit. If you go, as much as you can, into your daily life, including work or study, with a sense of generosity and giving, then you are truly alive and life is worth living.

Like you say, without love, life is lonely and depressing and there is no sense in working. It's not just the young that have special circumstances.

Some older people who have lost a life-long loved one through death may not have a partner, may not receive love in that sense, but it is not to say that their life is devoid of love and loving.

Just passing a few moments in conversation with a homeless person or an old lady in a shop or a child can be sharing your love, and make life worth living. It doesn't have to be romantic love.

[11] mixiユーザー 03月01日 03:03

Work is replaceable and changeable, but love is not.

Your work can be done by any other person, even if you are the president of the US.

But you have to be the only one who loves your partner.

So for me, love is more important than work, without a doubt.

[12] mixiユーザー 03月01日 03:07

what about "loving your work"? :p
sometimnes I'm so happy doing something that it doesn't feel like work for me. Like painting, or making music, stuff like that.
But if I'm just doing something to "pay the bills", then I prefer a slight predominance of "love" over "work", to stop me from feeling tired and depressed.

[13] mixiユーザー 03月01日 03:08

Love is much more important than Work..
Because I can get other job but? love? hm.

[14] mixiユーザー 03月01日 03:13

What about being a host! That's a lovely job... Sorry bad joke┐(´ー｀)┌

[15] mixiユーザー 03月01日 03:13

I've thought about it a bit more as well. If there is love between the two people, then it shouldn't be a problem since they would support you. Now For me on the other hand, I don't know what will happen after the trips because I am still a college student and really what it could mean is that after these things I might be recruited to for a prolonged period of time. However before that even happens, do I want to let go and let her be free or rather have her wait for me without a set time period.... Again it maybe that I'm just thinking way too much.

[16] mixiユーザー 03月01日 10:56

FOOD! I know its not an option..but food is love! and Food is what drives us to work! To work our butts off,to put bread on the table for the families we love! haha

[17] mixiユーザー 03月01日 11:05

I think its got to be "love," because the happiest one can ever be doing work, is when one is doing work that he/she loves. If you love your family and friends, but hate your work, then you will probably feel exploited know matter what kind of love you have. So love trumps work, because even though work can be very satisfying and fulfilling, that can only be true if its work you love.

[18] mixiユーザー 03月01日 11:43

Ideally, I would want to say love, but realistically, I would say work.
And anyone who can find a balance is doing a mighty good job.
For me, work gives me fulfillment and a sense of achievement.
Whilst love, gives me a time of comfort and a need to cherish.
These two things deal with different emotions.
I think that being devoted to one thing is admirable, or perhaps, a difficult choice of where to invest time and effort.

[19] mixiユーザー 03月01日 12:57

Just wondering, if a girl ask this question to her boyfriend, what is her expectation? I mean, if he say work, then he's being honest. But if he say love, you cannot be sure if he's being honest. So what's the point of asking?

For me :
Love vs Work? -> Love wins
Love vs Pursuing my dreams? -> Now this is a tough question. Hopefully I will never have to choose, I want both.

[22] mixiユーザー 03月01日 19:58

Too many people live to work. I think we should
work to live.

[23] mixiユーザー 03月01日 20:09

I love you all :)

(I'm not familiar with this word 'work'... someone please explain :P )

Seriously though, jobs come and go. I'm at work to pay for the things I love such as my daughter, camera equipment, rent etc. I live a very cheap existence, don't mind what job I do. 100% time loyalty to the things I love, 0% to work. The only thing I love about working is when its 6pm and I go home :)

[24] mixiユーザー 03月01日 20:21

Love and work is like the air and the ground.

I need to stand on the ground and breathe the air.

Only the ground without air? You can't breathe.
Only the air without the ground? You cant stand.

[25] mixiユーザー 03月01日 20:25

Nothing beats a good women at your side and money(work) just keeps the wheels turning.

[26] mixiユーザー 03月01日 20:58

love will help to generate more passion and meanings for our life;
work will help to make more money and food available for our desire.

lol.

[27] mixiユーザー 03月01日 22:04

make your work into a hobby then you get both. love becomes work. work becomes love. to do that you need to do something you like. that is important.

[28] mixiユーザー 03月01日 22:32

I need both of them, otherwise life is very miserable...
Work= Money= so I need it for real-life.
Love= Makes me happy=I need it for great life.

[29] mixiユーザー 03月01日 23:14

That isn't like what you can compare.

[30] mixiユーザー 03月02日 00:32

Hard work is the soundest investment. It provides a neat security for your widow's next husband.

[31] mixiユーザー 03月02日 00:55

both love and work are essential in my life.

[32] mixiユーザー 03月02日 01:31

You should love your work. Money is just a byproduct.
And love between people is just natural. Not something you need to think about, avoid or plan. It just happens. Wheather you want it or not and when you least expect it.

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