Gaijin Japanese relationshipコミュのSo difficult long distance relationship!

Hi everyone, long time no see!!

I m writting this topic because, my girlfriend send me message who scared me a little, she wasn t sure about my feelings until i call her. I really LOVE her, she knows that and she LOVES me too but what she said made me think about lond distance relationship, i know it s hard but with POSITIVENESS, it will be OK. If i could i will go straigh away to her and hug her, but for the moment it s impossible, she must be strong and me too of course!

I don t wanna loose her because of long distance relationship, we had so much fun before and i still want have a lot of fun with her!!! FOREVER!!!

So, Naoko chan, if you read this TOPIC, don t get angry because of that, i just wanted to have answers about that!! AISHITERU NAOKO CHAN

And guys, thanks for reading and answering about this topic, Sincerely, Filipe

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[1] mixiユーザー 06月22日 11:06

Surely no problems for you guys, long-distance
relationship sounds hard, but everything will be fine
if you convince each other with true love. Send her
messages, cards, letters, gifts...call her, I believe
that Naoko-chan just feels a bit lonely and depressed
because she can't see you as often as before, women
are usually much more sensible than men

As a
person who had the same experience as yours, I support
you! Be strong~

[2] mixiユーザー 06月23日 00:42

In spain we say "far from the eyes far from the heart..." Is normal and natural than when we don't see the other person we start doubting our own feelings, if the person takes 3 days instead of 2 for writting that mail you have been waiting for several hours we think that something is going wrong...or that the lover is not anymore that much attentionate.

I don't wish to scare you, but the longer appart the more clear those doubts will become, also it can happen one of the persons meet a new guy or girl, who suddently seems to be so much more attentionate, nice and "better" this of course is not true as there is a saying which says "the neighbords garden is always greener".

I have say this many many times to who wish to hear, long distance relations don't work, a long distance relation can't evolve nor progress, the better you can do is to sustain it, and the longer appart the worse. I sugest you and Naoko to talk by phone and tell each other very clearly to have faith in each other's love, simply to blindly believe in each other, you both need to work a lot simply to sustain the relation, and make plans so that the long distance doesn't stay forever a long distance. To blindly believing each other means that even if you cut contact to each other for several weeks, you will not doubt, nor worry nor stress about your mate love. That is very difficult to do, but only if both are able to do it, only then the relation can survive long distance.

I can't truly support Joanna's idea of often sending cards, letters and gifts, because if one day you can't do it, then the doubts will arrise quickly again. It's a matter of blind faith and trust.

[3] mixiユーザー 06月23日 08:55

-Joanna-

Thanks for your support, i will do my best and Naoko chan too!!! We must be strong!!

-Drake ColdWinter-

In France as well we say this expression, i think everywhere s the same!!!

That s true LongTerm Relationship is hard to keep but with faith, everything is possible, for myself i ve got faith, for Naoko i m pretty sure too. I call her or she call me, everytime. That s good.
I try not to be so negatif about longterm relation but if i wanna be with her, that s the only way

Thanks, Filipe

[4] mixiユーザー 06月23日 11:21

I think there is a big difference between how a man and
a woman feel about long-distance relationship, also
diverse cultures may influence how you perceive. Sure
we will feel insecure and uncertain when we can't see
each other, but the passion lasts because we believe.
Women need to be wheedled, even we know that they may
be unable to treat us like princess as ever, but we
still prefer our partners to do as much as they could.

Not everytime a woman is expecting something from her
man, most of the time she just wants to make sure that
her man is thinking of her as she is thinking of him.
If a man can convince his woman by his love, I believe
that if one day he fails to "update" her, she will only
feel worried whether he is sick or something not very
good has happened to him, but not losing the trust in
this relationship.

But absolutely right that a long-distance relation won't
last too long. If you really love somebody, you will
definitely find every possible way to stay as tight as
you could. Making a plan is a must. Long-distance
relation will work, if you really love that person and
your passion won't vanish easily until one day either
one of you change.

[5] mixiユーザー 06月24日 06:06

BELIEVE is the right word i m sure. I believe on my love for Nao and same for her!
Of course Long term relationship won t last but as you say Joanna, we will try everything we can to get together as much as we can!

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