☆International Families☆コミュのJealousy

My son is 4, he feels jealous everytime when I give a
kiss or hug to his father. He was ok with the
situation before he was 3, he has been acting a bit
fussy since then. It didn't seem like he was
pretending to catch our attention, he kept
silent and hid himself in his bedroom. When I asked
him what happened, he cried out and accused me of not
loving him. I don't understand, I kiss and hug him,
tell him "I love you" all the time, and I've explained
to him more than thousand times that we have to love
each other because we are family. Anyway, the
situation continues.

Maybe because he doesn't have any siblings?
I've heard that jealousy on younger siblings is very
common though. Somehow I felt him kinda sweet and
cute when he cried and complained that I love
his daddy more than him, but I really hope that I
can do something to settle the 'problem'.

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[1] mixiユーザー 05月15日 01:48

Let see......I guess he get possessive age.
"My mommy is only MINE!!!" If he would have his young
brother, maybe he will get the same...I think...
It calls in japanese "akachan gaeri=going back like a
baby in temporality". His mental will growing up more
at this time your son's age. My son is younger than your son 20-month-old. I have a 3 nephew and niece, they
were also looked like your son three of them when they
were your son's age. My son is not so "miss mommy" but
he has been acting fussy and miss mom too much if
NOBODY'S THERE except me...it's my "problem" too...(^^;)

How about you will try that you touch and kiss your baby first
(before you hug his father)....?

Good luck!

[2] mixiユーザー 05月15日 10:30

Thank you for telling me a new Japanese phrase,　I think
I will be using it all the time^＾。赤ちゃん帰り？ Can
I use it to describe a grownup who acts childish?

I'll try my best to remind myself always giving a hug
or kiss to my boy first, don't mix up the order...

[3] mixiユーザー 05月15日 21:32

赤ちゃん返り　ＯＲ　赤ちゃんがえり

You can use this phrase for only children.
The case in point....when the child acts fussy
because of he is a jealousy of his mother showing
love to a new her own baby (brother or sister)....

Only "Jealousy" calls in japanese やきもち=yakimochi.
You can use this words for grownup and child,
It might the right word in your child case.
(..he doesn't have brother yet,dose he?)

But we use it(赤ちゃんがえり) to young children.
（"When he acts like a baby")

Basic feeling is "a child wants more his mother's
love like a baby" and got fussy because of that.

Sorry for my poor english.

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