外国人と友達に!コミュのBad ways to make good friends

Bad ways to make foreign friends.

I often get mail from Japanese people that says,

"I read your message on mixi, I want to make friends with the foreign person because I need to practice English for my job"

Or

"So I can practice English"

Thats VERY common but VERY annoying.

If you want to be my friend, please be my friend because I interest you, or because we are similar.

Please DONT become my friend just because you think you can USE me for English practice or whatever.

Thats not "Friendship", thats abuse, its rude and its dull.

I didnt come to Japan to help YOU speak English,

I (many foreigners here) have our own lives in Japan, not just to help selfish people.

If you want to make good friends, you should be interested in THAT person,
not just his language!

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[1] mixiユーザー 03月13日 10:42

then u can use them for the same way

not big deal to speak English for u,right? why dont u help them \2000 / per hour

lol
u can do that

[2] mixiユーザー 03月13日 13:32

> キタリエさん

I wouldnt like to make money from friends

And I forget English.

最近日本語ばかり～

But im happy to have a beer with anyone

[4] mixiユーザー 03月15日 10:56

ハモンド星人さん

Hi there and welcome.

I have met a few people from mixi that collect the nationality of "friends" like pokemon cards.

I met a woman for coffee a few months ago, 5 minutes later she had about 12 print outs of mail from mail "friends"

(that just happened to be in her bag)

she wanted me to translate in Japanese for her.

She doesent even speak English. She doesnt even TRY to speak English, she just "befriends" people on the internet, then "befriends" other people to answer what she cant read.

She is just a lazy pest.

One of the mails she got was from a woman from Brazil.

The contents were in English, but had no content, just drivel and wasn't easy to understand.

So I asked the person I was drinking coffee with, "Why do you bother?"

Her answer?

"She is the only Brazilian I have"

Pokemon style friend collector.

And no longer ﾏｲﾐｸ

[7] mixiユーザー 04月13日 20:34

hi 英

i agree to u too.
i had lived in hong kong 5yrs before.

i also think, many japanese say like ur thinking.

and also tepical japanese r misunderstanding.i mean: they r thinking 1 of status for walking with foreigner on the street.

″does they wanna speak in english with u

″i dont think so

TO TEPICAL JAPANESE

IF U WANNA MAKE FRIENDSHIP WITH FOREIGER,U MUST LEARN ENGLISH AT LANGUAGE SCHOOL 1ST

IF U REALLY WANNA MAKE FRIENDSHIP WITH FOREIGNER, U GO TO OVERSEAS FOR LOOKING FOR JOB BY URSELF

WHEN U LIVE IN OVERSEARS, U WILL UNDERSTAND LIVING JAPAN OF FOREIGNER MIND.

あえて日本語で書かせて下さい。

バカな日本人は、外国人と街を歩く事が、一つのステータスと考えてますよね？

よく、ミクシイでも、『英語教えて下さい』ってあるけど、もし、自分が海外に仕事で行って、近寄ってくるのは、『日本語教えて』って人ばかりだったらどうしますか？うんざりしませんか？

そして、貴方は多分、そんなに日本語が話したいなら、学校で習って、ある程度話せるようになってから来い

と、思うと思います。

何故なら、仕事で行っているだけでも、かなりのストレスなのに、語学を教えるなんて、もってのほかだから

言われなきゃ解らないかもしれない。でも、余りに、自分の利益中心に考え過ぎてませんか？

人に頼ってたって、語学は上達しません。

語学学校へ行き、外国人とのコミュニケーションがとれるようになったら、友達になって下さいって言うのが、最低限の礼儀では

[8] mixiユーザー 04月20日 02:30

hi=)
I used 2 live in nz 4 about a couple of yrs.
so i realy do understand wat u guys r sayin.
there r sum ppl who treat foreigners like a tool of english learning as u guys hv complained.
and i too hv been treated like that=(
bt lets nt critisize em like callin em 'sum stupid japanese'
coz it make YOU sound bad too:<
I hope ths place wil help those wrong ppl 2realize hw rude they had been to u

il b realy glad if u understand wat im tryin 2 say!!

sory 4 ma poor englsh

[9] mixiユーザー 04月20日 03:06

TAC

Im Sophia^^
yeah i agree with you^^ i will go to the US university in this summer.
but i dont wanna make just "language friend" because i wanna enjoy with my friends and spend good time^^

and yeah, i always see this topics so often "i cant speak English, but i wanna make foreigner friends" if i am a foreigner, i dont wanna be friends with them. My foreigner`s friends too. (they always say that)
i also get message on mixi from foreigners because of "language"
i always say "no" because i dont wanna make just "language friend"

あとただ外国人と居る事に価値観を得るための人も居ると思いました。i heard that from my friends.

if they really want to find foreigners, they have to go to language exchange home pages i think^^

[10] mixiユーザー 04月20日 03:42

管理人です。

みなさんのおっしゃっていること、ものすごくわかります。

少しオフェンシブになってるので、このトピックはこれ以降カキコミはしないでください。

でもみなさんにもこのことに関しては理解してほしいのでトピックは残したいと思います。

よろしくお願いします。

Hi I am the owner of this community.

I really do understand how you guys feel but it's getting a little bit offensive so no more comments on this topic from now on.

However, I want more people to understand what its like to be treated as language machine so I won't delete this topic.

Thanks for your understanding.

[11] mixiユーザー 10月28日 01:31

i'm foreigner too! i agree with you totally!
it happened to me too many times , at beginning i was excited to get new friends but suddenly i noticed they don't replay at emails anymore and they just want to have a foreigner contact.
Just in few cases i get a nice friendship... but i wast a lot of time...

i agree with you totally ! i'm doing my best for the same reasons...

good luck man!

[12] mixiユーザー 10月28日 01:42

i wanna add, we are foreigners and we use mixi to know new japanese friends.
I think japanese people are very cool persons and i think if we want to get such friends we have to understand they way they think.
Sometimes could be difficult but it's important to understand it.. so such habbits are not offensive..
don't forget many foreigners chetted japaneses and when they are in japan haven't good behavior.

In my case , it's important to learn language but it's important to understand the culture and first of all understand the way they think...

I don't like who says "they have to learn english if want foreigners friends" (this sentence is not your sentence!! it's in a comment)
Because english is difficult and just to write an email in english could be very difficult ...

Anyway learning japanese language is very important !!! i don't know if you can speak japanese or not , but if they want to learn english from you it's because you can't use japanese well ...
So they are really really nice people to ask to you to learn from you!! try to understand it please...

i understood it too
頑張れ！！
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