Gaijin Japanese relationshipコミュのLong Distance RelationShip

Thanks for posting Boehni!!!! And thanks for joining my community!

Huum, so you are in a long distance relationship too, everything s ok??? Me too, but in less than 2 weeks, i will see her again for about three weeks and she will go back to Japan, it s gonna be hard!

I know Skype, Msn or even Mixi is not enough but it s better than nothing, don t you think?

What kind of book you read and her aswell??? I don t really understand. The thing is, my gf s japenese, if she reads a book in jap, how can i read the same, it s not sure i can find it translated!!!!

My boyfriend is Japanese ne...
And every summer, he goes back to Japan for 4 months to work. It's really hard on us....because we miss each other soooo much!
I keep hoping there will be a time when we can spend a whole year together 0.0
Right now, my summer nights are long and lonely...
Even though we phone each other, and write, and use MSN...I hate going out by myself, and seeing other couples enjoying love-love activities like camping and playing on the beach and stuff...

So far I've remained strong...but each year that passes...I become more in-love with my boyfriend, and it gets even more difficult to watch him get on the plane.

Is it all worth it? Hontoni wakanaiyo...
I guess if we can stay a couple, and be happy when we are together....then it is ^_^
I love him. I will do anything for him...even if it means having to be alone sometimes.

I agree with you boehni, long distance for short is okay but for long is not okay. I had plenty of conversations with my ex about the topic, when in long distance the relation doesn't evolve, if you put plenty of work into the relation, then at best you can manage to keep it going, but rarely if ever the relation evolves and in most of the situations the relations just suffers long distance.

I think that our behavior, our personality is greatly influenced by the things we experience in life, the choices we do in life are always done taking in consideration the ones we did before.

When you meet someone often, when you talk with that person, when you live with that person, both experience the same things, both share the same topics, the same events, if you do a walk and see a beautiful sunset, then both will see the same beauty. They got to know each other and become to have a complicity that can use a simple look or gesture to comunicate complex messages.

When there is long distance, the events, the choices, the experiences are not shared, because talking about an event doesn't truly share it. Then, the longer both are separated the more they may grow appart in their complicity.

I think the best I can explain this is with an exemple, everyone of us has a childhood friend, that friend you truly liked and had an intense complicity and shared your secrets and activities. Then you don't see him for many years, then one day you meet him, he entered the army and traveled around the world, you have become account manager... then you sit down, but somehow, the complicity is not there any more, even if you feel friendship, the conversation subjects just don't connect anymore and while you may find him very interesting and funny you could not say is your best friend anymore... They have just grow appart, because of their life experiences, because of their works and travels, the people they meet, they have come to see things differently, because our view of the world, our goals, the things we like and dislike, what makes us happy or unhappy, everything evolve in our lifes.

When you are living a long distance relation, in fact you are slowly growing appart from each other, it simply can't be otherwise.

A long distance relation is never ok, those who think otherwise are naively thinking love can solve all troubles of the world, and while I would desire this to be true it's not.

Look, dont let nobody bullshit you bro-

The key to long distance relationships lies within the palm of your hand.

If you can keep the hammer in the tool chest while she's away, then you will have no problem waiting till she's ready to be with you.

Unfortunately for most long-distance relationships, they fail because human beings need sex. If sex isnt a crucial aspect of your life, then you can live without her by your side... for now. Eventually, you will live happily together, you just got to hang in there!