大切な言葉たち English tooコミュのStrength

strength builds on positive experience...then motivation builds on the first fail/denial/negative experience to gain back the positive experience... right? love and care. let a person (child) have what they want is necessary at the early age to learn what happiness is like. if don't, they will be traumatized. any dislikes are rooted to early trauma, isn't it? really..tho... offender might have not been intentional. ,,,but does it matter to victim? well...that would be another subject.. but,,, discussion,, came up today : if a child should learn how to be strong only by being defeated....no, no, no, they first have to have the experience of "winning". otherwise why they would want to continue??? to experience what? if they do not even have a knowledge of what "winning" means...how would they find motivation in it? right? ok,, debate started here in my thoughts...winning is fun. gaining energy. when people went through early age without "winning" experience, that would make an adult with "always" eagers to win. to catch up with what they didn't earn when they were little... when they really needed the positive stroke in their life. not only sports, but argument with any subject! even a joke, they want to be superior to everyone!! right!!!annoying as heck!!! I want my kids to learn how to lose as well... by " first " learning what "winning"experience is like... love and care. I dont need to win anymore. I want to win by letting them win and lead them to become a winner after all ;)) I want my kids to learn what is important as they grow older ;))