In this country Japan, we treasure "sekenntei"「世間体」.
It means we can not behave ashamedly.MY husband says every time
" It is embarrasse me. So I could not do that"
I always reply,
" It is not ashamed. If we do wrong,we must be punished. But we can do anything that we want to do, if it is different from the otehrs doing."
I had been saying to our children that we could do everthing if it was not wrong to do.It is my principle.