A blind date is a date where the people involved have not met each other previously. The match could have been arranged by mutual friends or by a dating system. Ah, the infamous blind date. Many of us find this to be the most nerve-wracking, not to mention the most hated of all dates.
For those of you who have done this before, it doesn't have to be so bad. For those of you who have never before had the chance to tread in such unchartered waters, don't be so afraid, it is possible to come out alive. It may actually be a pleasant experience allowing you to reap many rewards.
Blind dates are becoming more commonplace following the rise of the Internet, when people who have met in chat rooms, Instant Messaging or forums finally agree to meet in person. Afterwards, they go to a place where they can have time to talk and get to know one another.
Dating coaches advise people meeting on a blind date to avoid a restaurant for the first meeting. They encourage a location such as a botanical garden, art gallery, park, promenade or an open-air concert -- any location that gives the couple the opportunity to talk, move around and provides something interesting to refer to during awkward silences.
Another recommendation is to engage in "airplane talk" -- casual conversation about each other's backgrounds, hobbies, interests and careers (don't dwell on any one subject for too long), and other topics that tell something about each other -- but don't reveal information that should be reserved for someone you know well.
Some conversation starters - conversation that will help each one learn a little bit about each other's values and way of thinking, and will also form the basis for more conversation on the second date: Who do you most admire? How did they inspire you? What has been the most satisfying achievement of your life? Is there something you've always dreamt about doing? What is your most treasured possession, and why?
If you are interested in each other, tell her that you had a great time and that whoever the matchmaker was; they were pretty on the ball.
Ask her if she wants to go out some time next week and tell her you'll give her a call. Suggest doing something that came up in conversation, like if she says she loves comedies, ask her to go see the new Jim Carrey movie in town, or if she loves Sushi, invite her to go to the trendy Japanese place that just opened.
Don't act too eager -- just say enough to make her know that you did have a good time and you would like to see her again. Give her a hug or a kiss on the cheek -- do not try to give her a kiss on the lips.
If the date did not go well, tell her that you had a good time, that it was nice to meet her, and that you'll probably see her around. If you don't want to be too harsh, you can tell her you'll give her a call; believe me, if it didn't go well, she won't be expecting your call and she'll probably hear from the matchmaker whether or not you were interested.
Don't be rude. The two of you have a mutual friend or relation, so you don't want her to report to the matchmaker that you were extremely rude. Be polite and thank her for the evening.
Good things have come out of blind dates -- if not actual relationships, then a good friend. And if it goes horribly, then at least you'll have a great story to tell about your date from hell. I hope this blind date survival guide helps you on your next blind date, and hopefully you'll only be blinded by the sparks flying between the two of you.